For-give-ness,
sometimes we have to break apart a word to get to the meaning. Jesus was the greatest giver of all time.
He gave to the max; he gave the ultimate, because he gave his life. Forgiveness is giving.
It is giving a free gift to someone that may not deserve it and unforgiveness is the act of not giving.
Jesus teaches only to give. Our actions show our heart. We have a hard heart
when we can't forgive and because of this we cannot and will not receive forgiveness when we ask. Are
you a giver?
This chapter takes a look into what it means to be a giver and a for-giver.
Mathew 6:9-15
9. “After
this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
10. Thy kingdom come,
thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
11. Give us this day our daily bread.
12. And forgive us our debts,
as we forgive our debtors.
13. Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom,
the power, and the glory, forever. Amen.
14. For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your
heavenly father will also forgive you:
15. But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your
trespasses.”
This seems to be pretty clear, our hearts may not always respond to this so clearly though.
When someone has wronged us we often struggle trying to forgive them because we seek vindication, retribution, restoration,
and revenge. All of these are fleshly and carnal desires that can destroy us. They can
eat at us from the inside and tear at our soul. It will be the most difficult time to be at rest and enjoy
God’s peace when we cannot forgive. God demands that we come before his throne with no hatred, no
bitterness, and no strife. He just won’t have it in his presence and will not allow it in our hearts; again he will
not allow us to come into his presence with unforgiveness in our heart.
Read Mathew 18:21-35 and see what
can happen if from our hearts we cannot forgive every brother their trespasses.
Mathew 18:21-35
21. “Then
came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Till seven times?
22. Jesus
saith unto him, I say not unto thee, until seven times: but, until seventy times seven.
23. Therefore is the kingdom
of heaven likened unto a certain king, which would take account of his servants.
24. And when he had begun
to reckon, one was brought unto him, which owed him ten thousands talents.
25. But forasmuch as he had not
to pay, his lord commanded him to be sold, and his wife, and children, and all that he had, and payment to be made.
26. The
servant therefore fell down, and worshipped him saying, Lord, have patience with me, and I will pay thee all.
27. Then
the lord of that servant was moved with compassion, and loosed him, and forgave him the debt.
28. But the same servant
went out, and found one of his fellow servants, which owed him a hundred pence: and he laid hands on him, and took him by
the throat, saying, Pay me that thou owest.
29. And his fellow servant fell down at his feet, and besought him, saying, Have patience
with me and I will pay thee all.
30. And he would not: but went and cast him into prison, till he should pay the debt.
31. So
when his fellow servants saw what was done, they were very sorry, and came and told unto their lord all that was done.
32. Then
his lord after that he had called him, said unto him, O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desirest
me:
33. Shouldest not thou also have compassion on thy fellow servant, even as I had pity on thee?
34. And
his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.
35. So
likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.”
After reading these verses what questions do you have?
Answer the following questions:
How many times should we forgive?
How did the wicked
servant get caught?
What happened to him when he got caught?
Jesus is our Lord, just as this servant had a Lord we have Jesus as our Lord, he is our heavenly
Father that has forgiven us our sins.
How shall we face Him each day in light of the forgiveness that
he has given to us?
The answer is: We shall always be ready to forgive others remembering that Jesus forgave us
even when we did not deserve to be forgiven. When we do this we will remain in perfect peace with God and our fellow Christians
and ourselves.
God forgives as written in the following discussion that David was having with God:
"You have been favorable to your land, you have brought back the captivity of Jacob.
You have forgiven the iniquity of all your people; you have covered all their sin" Psalm 85:1,2
The Bible teaches that love covers a multitude of sins. True
love never desires to rejoice in the sins of others. Some people love to gossip about what he or she has done, they like to
bring attention and focus to the wicked deeds of others, while their deeds are minimized. Jesus teaches us to love one another
and this love must seek to cover sin, to hide it and to reach out a helping hand to those that are overtaken by their sin.
When we restore another who is down we are doing what God has done for us. He has given us His favor by forgiving us our sins
and covering them so that others cannot see them. This is true love.
“Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore
such a one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” Galatians 6:1
This is the all telling
focal point: Are we as Christian as we believe? This scripture will put that to the test. Many attend church, live a pious
life, smile and raise their hands in joy showing to others their holiest, but when it comes to restoring another in the spirit
of meekness they walk away or they join the stone throwers union! Praise Jesus that He throws no stones at us, in fact He
cautions us about afflicting those that are in sin or have sinned. Let’s praise Him for His goodness and His wisdom.
Praise Jesus for
His love that has covered our sins and lifted us up from the dirt and filth of this world so that we may also love someone
as He has loved us. Here is Paul’s word of caution to us regarding afflicting others that have fallen.
2Corinthians 2:5-11
5. “But
if any have caused grief, he hath not grieved me, but in part: that I may not overcharge you all.
6. Sufficient
to such a man is this punishment, which was inflicted of many.
7. So that contrariwise ye ought rather to forgive
him, and comfort him, lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow.
8. Wherefore I beseech
you that ye would confirm your love toward him.
9. For to this end also did I write, that I might know the
proof of you, whether ye be obedient in all things.
10. To whom ye forgive anything, I forgive
also: for if I forgave anything, to whom I forgave it, for your sakes forgave I it in the person of Christ.
11. Lets
Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices.”
So have you heard Christians say that they are Christian
and turn with hatred or unforgiveness to another? Are they not testifying that they aren’t as Christian
as they say? Here we see that Paul is writing to those that they may not overcharge an offender. It is
a characteristic that many of us struggle with, the overcharging of an offender! Are we not called to love even our enemies?
Yes, so we must not take things to far by failing to relent on our retribution against those that have caused us grief. When
we fail to draw a line and follow that measure given to us, failing to offer forgiveness then our actions prove that we are
in sin ourselves! The sin of not loving and not forgiving! We must say it is enough!
They have suffered enough and now it is time to take them back in through the love of Christ.
After reading these verses
what questions do you have?
Answer the following questions:
Should you forgive after punishment is complete?
Should we forgive like Jesus does?
Romans 12:17-21
17. “Recompense
to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
18. If it be possible, as much as lieth
in you, live peaceably with all men.
19. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it
is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him;
if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
21. Be not overcome with
evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Wow! This may be hard, but remember God will never give us more than we can handle and he
will never ask us to do something that we can’t do with his help. If we are to be honest in all things we must ask ourselves,
have we let this go, have we truly forgiven them, and have we trusted God enough to give it to him? God will vindicate, he
promises to be with us through it all and he has stated that Vengeance belongs to him so why continue to bring injury to your
heart by holding onto bitterness and hatred all the while claiming to be a Christian that walks in love. When
a person lives with this in their heart they are not fooling anyone but themselves. When we are not truly honest about our
feelings of unforgiveness we can say all that we want to try to convince ourselves that we forgive, but the truth is our actions
before God prove us to be a liar.
After reading these verses what questions do you have?
Answer the following questions:
Recompense to no man evil for evil, how shall we live with
others?
What does it mean to overcome evil with
good?
1Peter 3:8,9
8. “Finally, be ye all
of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous.
9. Not rendering evil
for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit
a blessing.”
Are you ready for a blessing? Paul reminds us that we are to inherit a great blessing
when we follow what Jesus has taught us. The days of the Code of Hammurabi are gone,
they have been abolished and no longer are we to live by the rule
of an eye for an eye or a tooth for a tooth, but rather we live by forgiving others as we have been forgiven.
For this cause it is written in Mathew 5:38-42
“Ye have heard that
it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, that ye resist not evil: but whosoever
shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy
coat, let him have thy cloak also. And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. Give to him that asketh
thee, and from that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.”
After reading these verses what questions
do you have?
Answer the following questions:
Not rendering evil for evil, what are we to do?
Jesus gave forgiveness and restoration. Let’s
take a look at what Jesus did in the message below: